Friday, September 12, 2014

Oh, opinions.

You may or may not know that my boyfriend is quite the arguer. We have a lot of fun (and competition) going back and forth about a whole slew of subjects. We argued about our government for something like 4 hours on a road trip once. Decidedly, we should go back to popular vote via the internet and rid the county once and for all of political parties. We argue about what is considered good or bad or just okay with anything. We argue about who does what more often or who's luckier in regards to things. Our arguments mostly inspire me, give me a fresh perspective. Him, forever rooting for the underdog. Me, working out a concrete reason for everything. We always have something to talk about.



Usually it ends with an "I give up" scenario, sometimes a "wow, I guess you're right", and very rarely does it end in any kind of negative feelings. Only when the subject is related to something one of us feels we have distinctly more knowledge about do we get actually get frustrated. And we're both easy going so no frustration has ever turned into a fight. Speaking of, I guess we've never actually had a fight.

One of our infamous arguments the other night was about something I didn't have a strong opinion on. I didn't develop one until I thought about it later. Now, of course, I hold a very strong opinion (and the exact opposite of his, as you might guess). So strong, I want to share it here.

The question was about the fact that our laws define statutory rape as rape.

The criminal offense of statutory rape is committed when an adult sexually penetrates a person who, under the law, is incapable of consenting to sex. Minors, and physically and mentally incapacitated persons are deemed incapable of consenting to sex under rape statutes in all states. These persons are considered deserving of special protection because they are especially vulnerable due to their youth or condition. 
Taken from lawdictionary.com
He doesn't think this should be titled rape. Because, if the sex is consented to (no matter the age), then it's not really rape. Well, I disagree wholeheartedly. So much so, that I felt the need to pop onto my silly little blog here and rant about it.

When a person is younger than 18, they are unable to consent - period. A 16 year old girl may be saying to her 18 year old boyfriend "it's okay, I'm ready". But, she just does not know that. I went through all these things. And I grew up consistently thinking I was older than I was. A lot of teenagers think they are older than they are. I wasn't ready, most people aren't. It is the older person's responsibility to know that until their partner is of age - they should wait. It should absolutely be titled rape, because it is rape. They are not old enough to consent, so they are not consenting. That's how I feel and I think it's important.

*Steps lightly off my soapbox,

In other news, summer is ending! We are getting these nice, cool breezes in Manhattan. It feels glorious. I'm worried about winter, but I'm going to soak in this tiny bit of fall. I'm still working on my Travel Journal entries, typin' up Thailand now. I am just loving re-living those experiences. It makes me even more thankful to have this blog. I can't wait to look back years later and hear my own voice, see all my photos. My memory is just shit, so it's for the best really.

My parents are coming next week. Mom, Dad, & Sonnie. The three troopers. I hope they make it around NYC without too much aches and pains. It's a difficult city to get around and my pops has arthritis. So, I'll be keeping a close watch and grab a cab now and then. Regardless, I'm very excited! :) I'll be sure to update with all the fun things we do.

Till then,
E xoxo